Long Hair for God's Glory
I have had several ladies compliment my long hair in recent years. I've had many ask me why I keep it long instead of short and "styled". I've had many ask me why I
don't color it, perm it, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera! I will answer those questions last to first *_*
Why don't I color my hair...or should I say, KEEP coloring my hair? Why did I stop dyeing it in 2003? Well, because the LORD made me this way, and I was
tired of fighting it! So since 2003, I have been allowing my hair to go natural - from reddish brown to WHITE. This photo is of my Momma, showing her beautiful
hair when she was in her forties:
Momma never kept her hair long. In fact, my "shortest" style I've had as an adult was about the length of the longest I ever saw hers. So although allowing it to go
its natural, "no color" color is in my Momma's footsteps, growing it out long is not! My sister and I almost always had long hair in our growing up years. I have
heard pros and cons. Here are a few:
Pro: long hair is beautiful.
(Shoulder-length and shorter hair is usually described as "cute, stylish, pretty" but seldom described as beautiful.)
Con: Short hair is easier to take care of for some (it wasn't for me at ALL).
Pro: Long hair saves $$ on salon visits!
Con: Short hair is more fashionable / stylish.
Pro: the Bible tells Christian women to have long hair for a covering *_*
Many Christian organizations will have a hair cut standard for men. "Over the ears and off the collar", "tapered, not block cut".... But in the same passage of
Scripture (I Corinthians 11) that says long hair is shameful to men, it tells women to have long hair as a covering!
I Corinthians 11:13-15
13 Judge in yourselves: is it comely that a woman pray unto God uncovered?
14 Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him?
15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.
We need to EXAMINE ourselves, JUDGE ourselves. It is not comely that a woman pray unto God uncovered, and her hair is given her for a covering.
As a young person, I didn’t have a very feminine physique. I was over five-ten in high school, broad shouldered, thin as a rail…. When I was a teenager,
occasionally I wore jeans, went to the rock music playing roller rink with my friend, and didn’t wear much makeup…. And one very embarrassing day, a girl
came up to me during couples’ skate and asked me to skate…thinking I was a BOY. I thought I’d die of mortification. But through that horrible experience,
I learned a very important lesson:
A very vital part of being a lady is dressing like one.
The verse says, “Man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” So, from that point on, I made an effort to make my outward appearance as feminine as possible.
About a year later, again wearing jeans, I was in a more feminine blouse—ballet style, long sleeved black with a beaded owl on the front. I also had my long hair styled a bit…brushed out long and silky with two thin braids coming down on the sides in a Juliet look. This time, there was no doubting I was a girl! But this time, in a Zayre’s parking lot, I got wolf-whistled at by a man in a pickup truck. Quite frankly, I was nearly as embarrassed of this attention as I was of the other!
So part of my femininity overhaul was to wear my hair long and styled, and to wear feminine, modest apparel. Now, if you want the whole scoop on the apparel thing, visit my devotional Attributes of a Godly Woman.
I got my hair cut to shoulder length before my senior picture, but it was still very feminine. I made the mistake of getting cut in a long-feathered “Lady Diana” for
college. That was a BIG mistake. Talk about a style that takes a LOT of work just to be presentable!
While at college, my friend, Kimberly, had hair she could sit on—silky and brown. There were two sisters at PCC who had waist length hair that they curled into
fairytale beauty! One of my friends at THE WILDS Christian Camp, Christy, had waist-length black hair. She was also half Japanese; and even though her hair was
coarse and curly, it was shiny…beautiful!
Just before I was saved, I went to the beautician and paid the megabucks to get a spiral perm. Ah…the price of vanity! My hair was LONG at that point. The perm
fried it terribly. I felt sick. But the deed was done. So I had a “cute” style for a while…which is when I heard the “short hair is pretty or cute, but long hair is
BEAUTIFUL” quote. Deep sigh!
I began growing it out again right away, and it was a lovely length in time for my wedding 5 years later! Mind, for the wedding I had it permed again (NOT a spiral!)
and colored for my bridegroom…his preference. Beautiful, but not “natural” of course. Since then, he’s seen what the chemicals do to my hair (split ends and no
shine), and he prefers natural now!
Okay, so I wear it long to be feminine, not permed because it takes away the shine and gives me split ends. Why not colored? I mean, I was only thirty-somethin’,
and my hair was over 50% white!!! Well, I couldn’t keep up with coloring. I was coloring it or having to touch up the “skunk streak” at my part every two weeks!!!
Talk about chemically frying it again! So in 2003, I gave up the coloring battle, trimmed the old hair coloring out of it to a reasonable length (just below shoulder length),
and began pampering it a bit more.
Something I tell myself when tempted to CUT....
You can make long hair look short with an upsweep.
Once cut, you cannot make short hair long...for a LONG time.
You can arrange long hair in SO many ways! For casual, I enjoy a french braid or single, thick and glossy cornrow. For dressy, I take a thick curling iron to the
ends and a regular curling iron to the fringe around my face. Very feminine, very stylish, and even very healthy! Yes, I said, “Stylish.” Long hair can be stylish! Look
through a “Hairstyles of the Stars” magazine next time you’re at the hairdresser. The really beautiful, feminine actresses all have long tresses—though sometimes
they’re “borrowed” as weaves *_* Sometimes curly is “in”, sometimes silky straight is. But don't make the world's standard of beauty your standard. Again, the
Bible is where we find God's standards *_* Whatever hair type you have, yours will be "in style" in a few years. Meanwhile, invest some time making the hair God
gave you as beautiful and healthy a covering as you can...for His glory!
In 2005, I developed a skin problem health issue that made me reconsider my skin and hair product choices. I’m trying to put natural stuff in my body, why
shouldn’t I put it ON my body! So I began using natural soap, hair products…I even was given a book of natural beauty recipes you can make at home—thank
So I checked online for information on long hair, natural care. It was then that I discovered that a lot of people have sensitivity to Laureth Sulfate or Laurel
Sulfate, an ingredient in nearly every shampoo and liquid soap on the market! When our family budget can afford it, I use an all natural shampoo from
JASON’S. I also use a spray hair gel from the health food store, again, when we can afford it *_*
Again, what does God’s Word say about a woman’s hair? Clearly stated, we find verses in I Corinthians 11 that detail two facts:
A woman’s hair is her glory
A woman’s hair is for a covering
Even with my hair the length it is, it is hardly “covering” much! But it is long (waist-length when I created this page) and quintessentially feminine.
I've made this decision, not for man’s appreciation. Not even for my husband’s appreciation, though that is important! But I keep my hair long
and feminine for God’s glory, Who is my glory!
What--if anything--can be done to improve our hair? The "professionals" agree that there is much that can be done to improve the look of
hair, but how much control we have over our hair is dependent on several factors. Diet is important. Those of you who have had children and
been on pre-natal vitamins during pregnancy, do you remember how BEAUTIFUL it made your hair and nails? Consider taking vitamins for your health.
Heredity is a key element. Hormonal changes due to age & health can also alter hair, making it thicker, denser, or curlier.
Genetics isn't the only thing that alters hair quality - the environment can effect it, too. Sunlight, weather, and minerals in water can add to your hair troubles.
Add to this the fact that most of us want to change what God gave us. We attempt to make our hair into something it's not:
If our hair is super curly, we can't wait to get it straightened; if it's straight, all we crave is curl. Never mind what type of
hair we have, we all want most what we don't have. We color, perm, relax, blow-dry, curl, brush, tease, style, gel, mousse, and spray our hair
to try to get it the way we want it. Chemical treatments, constant heat styling, rough styling methods, and product
buildup take their toll on hair, making it dry and weak over time.
We need to BE CONTENT with what we have and do the best we can with it, again, as a testimony for the LORD!
What about donating your long hair to "Locks of Love"?
http://www.squidoo.com/locksoflove/ is a very eye-opening article. Please read it and KNOW THE FACTS before donating.
I have known several tender hearted ladies and teens who have donated their long hair to this company, which is fairly well known for making wigs out of
donated locks for children suffering hair loss. Sadly, that does NOT include children with cancer, as the hair loss is a temporary result from chemotherapy.
Nor does all, most, or even half of the hair donated get used. Sadly, I have never known anyone who received a wig from Locks of Love; and I have known
hundreds with hair loss, including my precious Momma.
There are other companies. But since Christian ladies are told in the holy scriptures to have long hair as a covering, this has never been a consideration for me.
There are other ways of donating to those in need...of doing so very privately, too! Donate blood! Find a company who crochets or knits super soft caps or makes quilts for those undergoing chemo! And again, there are many ways of doing this is secret....
Matthew 6:3 & 4
But when thou doest alms, let not thy left hand know what thy right hand doeth: That thine alms may be in secret: and thy Father which seeth in secret himself shall reward thee openly.
To share everything I would need to write a huge book, but I can summarize a lot of my secrets right here in this article:
* Decide that you really are committed to growing your hair long and healthy, and know the reason WHY. Is it for attention? Do you want long hair for the glory of God (I Corinthians 10:31). Before you even think about growing your hair long you must examine your goals. You must really be committed to growing your hair long. It takes time, patience, persistence and it is not cheap. There is no "shortcut".
In our "grab it and go" society, we want what we want NOW. There are no secrets to growing hair "really fast". Even hair that grows at 1 inch per month (and this is the exception to the rule), would take one year to achieve 12 inches of total grown.
* Be realistic. Not everyone can grow knee length hair. Some hair textures are not conducive to long locks. Thin or fine hair is one example. Some curly hair can grow long, but because of the corkscrew nature of the hair cuticle the hair will look a lot shorter than it really is. Don't beat yourself up if you have hair that has a hard time achieving a lot of length. Be content with the hair you have and find styles that are uniquely yours.
* Eat as healthy as you can. A well known dermatologist that I consult with has told me for years that when hair doesn't complete a full growth cycle it is because the body is not able to supply the hair with all the essential minerals and vitamins that are so important for good healthy growth.
This is also true when hair starts to fall out more frequently than normal. In some cases improper nutrition can permanently alter the hair's ability to recover.
In most cases, once the proper minerals and nutrients are restored to the body, the hair can again grow faster, longer and healthier.
* Supplement with vitamins. It is unfortunate but true that in our heavily polluted environment the soil is not what it used to be. Therefore even if you eat like a saint (no caffeine, sugar, white flour, junk food, alcohol, nicotine, etc.,) you may still not get the maximum nutritional benefit from just food. I learned that when I added vitamins and minerals to my diet that my hair reacted in a very positive way.
* Find a "Hair Buddy" Just like dieting, growing hair is a process and there will be periods of hair growing ups and downs. There will be good days and bad days
and times when your hair just may not seem like it will ever grow as long as you want. I found great comfort in having long hair buddies that could help me with
encouragement, understanding, and general support. On days that I just couldn't stand my hair, they would remind my why I was doing what I was doing, and remind me that "this too shall pass".
* Be willing to resist peer pressure / worldly influences. Long hair, like every other style, falls in and out of popularity on a regular basis. At the snip of scissors a
model will go from waist length hair to a short bob. This will start a whole new hair movement. Understand that people will try to convince you that their ways and
ideas are better. If you believe that the Lord is honored by growing long and beautiful hair, then work toward that goal faithfully.
* Enjoy your hair. Long hair, in my opinion, is the easiest hair to deal with on a daily basis. For me, I wash my hair, twist it into a knot, attach a clip, and let it air dry
on my head for several hours. By the middle of the day I let my dry hair down and am rewarded with thick waves, sometimes using a folded scarf as a "headband"
to keep it back from my face. The days of hair dryers, hot curlers and styling agonies are long gone. To me, having long hair is a wonderful experience. So once you
have grown your hair out, enjoy it!
These are some more tips I have found useful:
1. Have a long hair partner – it is easier to stick with growing your hair long and maintaining it if you have someone encouraging you along the way!
2. Trim the ends – depending on how quickly your hair grows, you should “dust the edges”, trimming off the split ends every three months or so.
3. Curly hair, COMB; Straight hair, BRUSH dry.
4. If you want hair shiny as satin, treat it like fine cloth! You wouldn’t wash a silk blouse in hot water, using harsh soap on it! So it is with hair! You wouldn’t wash
the silk blouse every day, either! So it is with hair! Wash the portion closest to your scalp as often as needed with a gentle shampoo, but shampoo the full length
only twice a week for best results. Condition the ends as needed. I used a fingernail of coconut oil, rubbed in my palms until liquid, then applied to the ends and
5. Use hair fobs that will not damage your hair. NEVER use an office type rubber band for your hair! Scrunchies are good, and are a great, casual accessory!
Tipped bobby pins are fine for upsweeps. I like hair clips, small and large; and many come with more formal decorations, making them suitable for church and
I realize that in many cultures, it is mandatory for women to keep their hair covered for religious reasons. Many religions in America do the same. I respect that; and
if I were a missionary to eastern Europe or Israel or anywhere that this was the modest, appropriate thing for ladies to do, I would gladly do so. But when I read
the passage that tells me to have my head covered, only a few verses away I find that my hair is to be a covering. If my hair were short, I would see the need to
wear an additional head covering. What is short? Hmmm…if I am concentrating on “how short can I have it?”, is that really the right focus?
When I read the passages in the Gospels where different ladies anointed Jesus’ feet with ointment and/or their tears, drying them with their hair, I couldn’t help
but think, “I want to be able to do that when I get Home."
Luke 7:38 And stood at his feet behind him weeping, and began to wash his feet with tears, and did wipe them with the hairs of her head, and kissed his feet, and anointed them with the ointment.
John 11:2 (It was that Mary which anointed the Lord with ointment, and wiped his feet with her hair, whose brother Lazarus was sick.)
John 12:3 Then took Mary a pound of ointment of spikenard, very costly, and anointed the feet of Jesus, and wiped his feet with her hair: and the house was filled with the odour of the ointment.
But I can’t do that with short hair! In my books, the ladies all have below shoulder length hair, the
“shortest” styles being Abigail (curly blonde hair) and Matty Rose (curly red hair). It is very rare to see naturally curly, long hair. It’s a real head-turner though,
as it’s beautiful, romantic, and feminine. I will never have curly long hair, but I will grow out my straight hair and keep it healthy and shiny…for the glory of God!
There are many things we can be known for, good and bad. If I were allowed to choose, I would hope that people remember me as doing all I could to bring
glory to God…through raising my children biblically, being a godly wife, playing the organ / piano at church, singing, creating God-honoring homepages and
graphics, writing books…. Yes, and even dressing and wearing my hair for the glory of God!
Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might....
I Corinthians 10:31
Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.
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